I'm glad you quoted the "Believe none of what they say..." Because the only thing H has said to me is "I don't think I want a future with you" etc in the one convo. His actions have remained the same as the last 18 years - no avoidance, no spew, still same bed w/contact, still ML.
So Lance, what do I believe? That his actions bely his words?
Yes I would believe half his actions, not any of his words. He does sound depressed, part and parcel of MLC, for the moment his actions do not sound like some one who wants a divorce but that could change as time goes along. If he is sleeping with you and someone else then that is cake eating. Kind of dangerous for you.
Originally Posted By: mrsrjd
Just had an email from H.
Hello, did not sleep well again last night. Think they do not know what a soft bed is anymore here. Hope all is going well, will try to get hold of you to wish S16 well in his game on Friday.
I have noticed "not sleeping well" to be a recurrent theme in his communications. The hopeful part of me reads that as code for missing me because he has said before that he never sleeps well without me. Is this wishful thinking?
I responded to him.
Are you sure its just the mattress that's the issue?
All is going ok.
Thanks for checking in.
How'd I do? Was the mattress question out of line? Thanks for your input. --
Not sleeping well is part and parcel to older age and midlife in general.
My guess is that most midlifers do not sleep well, have upset stomachs, ailments, all part of the depression and script of the movie that they are starring in.
You can throw him truth darts but do not EXPECT anything to come of them.
I see them as trying to FIX him. What do you think?
