Hi Starsky - no reason except I was taking a break from the board and trying to keep my posts positive. I had posted about an EA that I was concerned about growing into a PA. I posted about the signs. And yes, with this man. I am now convinced that there was no PA and that type fo EA was really my W being head over heels "in love" with her job, the travel, and the fun exciting things this man provided as her boss. It was also her desire for independence, her lack of emotion and reassurance to me, the stress of our busy family, and my insecurities and fears. This man juggled several women (using company funds) in addition to his wife, and was probably "grooming" some younger workers here - so certainly HE was interested. But she, as far as I can tell, walked the line. Now he is gone. But my wife's upward career path and ever growing need for independence is still around. She is now thinking of working several days a week in another state in a family business, maybe taking it over one day but does not want me to relocate the family for this. Well, for several blissful months things were GREAT. Now we have quite a bit of conflict over the possibility of her working and staying some overnights in another state. She wants space to decide for herself and alternates between happy and unhappy with her current job (which is now just a job, since the sugar daddy of exotic trips and perks is gone). She does not want to talk about any of it. Nor does she want to provide reassurance to me that we are fine during or after our "discussions". My need for this kind of reassurance seems to be the type you'd see in codependance or, and I've just discovered that this is a conditions, ROCD. Not suprising, given my past experience I guess. I simply do not function well at all when we are arguing or I have doubts about her feelings towards me. I barely get through the day adn find it nearly impossible to "be happy". I think that much of this problem would disappear if I had 100% trust that she loved and respected me. But I'm probably around 75% most days - not really enough to deal with all that's happening.
Well, that was a long way to answer your question. Didn't mean to confuse you, but have to admit I'm pretty confused these days myself.
