I'm glad to see that you spoke to your lawyer. He's right...get what you want now and make sure it is documented on paper. He'll be furious, but at this point, he would be furious about anything that isn't in his favor. Do what is right for you and your children.
Wishing, no matter what you do, he will always find some fault w/it. You've tried to work w/him visitation for trick or treating. If he's not happy about it, it's his loss. Yes, they do tend to put the op's children before their own once they enter into MLC. It's because they become a "package deal" and in order to get the op and enjoy that person's company, they tend to sell their souls for that time. They know that their children will be right where they left them, just as you will (or so they think).
Trust your gut instinct...
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
