Which means despite the typo, my thread is up and running.
Here is a bit more of my sitch: Not only are there geographic issues, but as of the last visit, I did not get the Distance feeling from him. In fact, he held my hand in the car and it was me who pulled away (every time I thought of the OW). He will still tell me he loves me, just that he is confused. I was the distancer in our relationship and I have identified that this was one thing about our relationship that bothered him. I am ashamed to say that I didn't take those complaints as seriously as I should have. I am trying to look within myself to find out why.
As a 180, I now always say ILY back (sometimes I would not before) My question is: I have seen so many times not to say ILY - but if it is a 180 - is this a time to bend that rule?
I would love some practical advice on the distancing/pursuing dymanmic in MLC where I was the distancer in the relationship. Obviously and in the circumstances he no longer wants my affection butthen, as it says in the DR book, he might think this is "more of the same". I am having a hard time reconciling this and there is not much practical advice or suggestions for this situation that I have found.
