You're right, Labug. I could just not go out with H if he smells of alcohol.
I can imagine him telling me I'm bonkers/nuts and that he's only had one glass or whatever. It would really provoke him.
H does explode at me--especially when he's in the wrong! I hate it when he loses it. My family was v restrained (no shouting, no swearing, no stomping out of rooms..) whereas his was v volatile and I can't get used to his outbursts. I will do a lot to avoid them. I know it gives him lots of power.
Me: 51 H: 52 T: 23 yrs M: 19 yrs S18, D16, S14 (special needs) PA: 2003/2004 Piecing: 2004 on Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012