You're right, Labug. I could just not go out with H if he smells of alcohol.

I can imagine him telling me I'm bonkers/nuts and that he's only had one glass or whatever. It would really provoke him.

H does explode at me--especially when he's in the wrong! I hate it when he loses it. My family was v restrained (no shouting, no swearing, no stomping out of rooms..) whereas his was v volatile and I can't get used to his outbursts. I will do a lot to avoid them. I know it gives him lots of power.


Me: 51
H: 52
T: 23 yrs
M: 19 yrs
S18, D16, S14 (special needs)
PA: 2003/2004
Piecing: 2004 on
Suspect H had EA: 8/2012-12/2012