cadet, she seems able to follow through on other things... she has moved twice, has new job... or i could that be her running from depression?
bug, yes, it is a pattern that in hindsight i adapted to and did not notice much. perhaps best illustrated during our M by her persistent refusal to spend any time thinking about our financials, saying that she "trusted" me with it...but then being angry and calling me "controlling" of our finances after the BD..
and yes, it could be her L delaying things or a change in how they are moving forward after i refused to pay half... not sure and i do find it passive aggressive that she does not enlighten me ever...
as far as not following through... when we met her finances were a mess and she likes to do things quickly without spending time on the details.. that is a pattern..
yes, i will be ok.. thank you for the encouragement bug.
it is strange... the memory her whole family has of her parents' D is that her mother's IC told her to "pull the bandaid off as quickly as possible"
i am trying to see it as just another area for my own growth.. i have realized lately that i did not like being wholly responsible for our financial security and future.. i ended up putting a great deal of pressure on myself, which i am sure she felt.. and i need to grow in how i handle my own feelings and fears about finances.
thanks, bug for making me think
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
