My thinking is that an individual might have different receiving and transmitting LL. Although, I would suspect that how one registers love would be much like how they express love...
I would advise getting the book from the library, you can read it in one day. I agree that a person might transmit and receive their LL in two different languages.
Originally Posted By: mrsrjd
As far as I can tell my husband doesn't express love for me. He provides for our family which is commendable and honorable but as for something especially for me - I just don't see that. Help me, ask me some questions so I might find how he does communicate.
During MLC it is quite common for their to be NO LOVE for the SPOUSE, that is part of the dis-ease That is why we need to detach and let them have their crisis. However it is also possible that he does do something that does show you love and you are just not noticing it. Maybe it is quality time. Or AOS via providing income for the family.
You may need to honestly look at what he was pre-crisis or when you first met, he may be 180 degrees opposite that right now. That is part of the crisis.
That is one reason that things are counterintuitive. All is not how it seems to be. Normal logic does not prevail.
Right now you do not want to communicate through speaking. You must rely on ACTIONS not WORDS.
Do not believe anything he says and half of what he does. Their are reasons for all of this.
