You know, I think it's difficult for people who've had a low sex drive or disinterest in sex to understand why it's so important to people with high sex drives. Imagine someone telling you that they need their elbow scratched every day and that it means a lot to them emotionally. You might say, OK, I'll try to take care of it. But after a while you tell yourself privately, jeez, it can't be that important?! They just don't see why it should matter so much.
Hell, if my partner told me that they have a scratch that needs to occur every day, and when they can't get to it theyre stressed, acting or looking crazy... I'm going to scratch it for them. It's not going to take too much of my time and energy, and it will make them feel alot better.
I don't see what's the big deal in considering that some of us have needs outside of theirs and they have to spend some time on things that they may not feel directly benefit them.
For the SSM spouses, they will have a calmer and better acting relationship partner.
