I get that the people here are primarily LBS's and "in mourning." I'm just wondering what would have gotten their attention before things got so bad. I've always paid more attention to the prevention vs. the cure. I understand that in some cases, nothing besides the bomb would have gotten their attention. But if that's the case, why be angry with the WAS?
Because some WAS think they properly communicated their issues, when i reality they way the did it was not effective. Some WAS can't/won't acknowledge that if they changed some of their ways on communication, marriage would be so much better.
Instead they want to focus on, hey "i tried to tell him/her". I do understand some LBS might be true scumbags or did something that was really messed up but i also believe alot of WAS are rushing into a judgement after just giving the LBS a life changing event. If anything, once a LBS has a life changing event, thats when the WAS should know, this is the last chance.
WAS should also realize, every relationship will have ups and downs, this is not a movie where they will just find someone who is perfect and knows exactly what he/she wants.
WAS has a tendency to think, the kids will also be okay in the future, which is the most selfish act of being a parent...then they try to act/say things in the best interest of kids.
Its quite disgusting...1st you break the marriage vows and then ultimately throw a huge curveball in your kids life. (sure some turn out okay, but these are your kids, you want the best path for them)
