Is this a bit of a breakthru or have things just got a whole lot worse.

This am W finally felt the need to tell me about OM. She says he is just a v good friend, but everything else she said means it is def an EA. He confided in her when he was thinking of leaving his M, and he did leave his M (with support from my W!) And he has been providing emotional support to W throughout our sitch right back to Dec 11.

W does not understand term EA(well she says she doesn't) and I sat there numb while she rhymed everything off. She says they txt, chat online and meet up but nothing physical has happened and she has no intention of that.

I did not rly respond other than saying I was hurt that she has become emotionally involved with OM and told him intimate details of our M. She does not see the issue with this and even said she wishes he was a girlfriend then it would not seem so weird to other people. I did thank her for telling me tho she does not see their R as an issue. I also stayed calm.

Someone here posted a link to a recent MWD artyicle on EA that I read. Given W appears to think she has done nothing wrong shld I show it to her or wld this make things worse?

I am pretty devasted but tbh I pretty much suspected as much anyway so not a huge surprise. She has no intention of NC with him (I did ask what her pos with him was going forwards).

However, I am v angry that between them they have destroyed 2 Ms and 5 kids lives in the process (OM has 3 kids).

OM and is W were mutual friends until about 12mths ago when he started acying funny with me(quiet, not saying much etc). Stupidly I remember asking W at the time did she notice he seemed uncomfortable with me around. Shortly after he left his W.

Pleaser can someone advise how I now deal with this? I cannot force NC, I cannot get W to realise that this is an EA and the damage it has caused.

She says he understands her, they have a lot in common etc etc.

Thinsg just seem to be going from bad to worse at the moment and rly just getting to the point where I have had enough.

Any help please as I feel like I am about to lose it.