When I got home, I was a little frustrated because there was absolutely no plan for dinner. She had been home all day but did not take anything out of the freezer or make an alternate plan. I kept my frustratoin to myself and figured out what to make. We had dinner as a family again last night, and we had a pretty good family conversation. After dinner, she went to the bedroom to, i guess, study. I stayed downstairs and cleaned the kitchen, then started watching the Presidential Debate. I texted her that the Debate was on if she wanted to watch. (We watched most of the last one together) She said that "If you do my homework, I will watch the debate", then "guess not . I told her I recorded it if she wanted to watch it later and she said Thanks. That was the end of the conversation last night.
Just journaling thoughts today. Nothing new to really ask or bring up.
Sounds like you have a little more clarity. Now you have to actually learn to DB and find what will work.
As to the comment that I quote above... get used to it man. The first thing that you need to understand is that she does not see the situation the same as you. She is divorced from you emotionally... That means that you are divorced. So don't expect dinner, tender kisses goodnight, to hear 'I love you', etc. You are no longer married. Accept that and then you can begin...
Your broad goals need to be 1) work on improving yourself, becoming the man that YOU want to be, 1a) Creating a whole new R/M with your W.
Goal # 1 is necessary for goal 1a.
And if you fail to achieve goal 1a? You walk out of this a better man.
That's why you can't lose IF you actually put your mind to this.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
. I told her I recorded it if she wanted to watch it later and she said Thanks. That was the end of the conversation last night.