Hi all! I am in a much much better place. A lot was said at dinner last night. To be honest it went south because I got very angry. I felt as if he was not empathizing with me.
Thankfully we talked again after and again today. We do so much better after arguments than before this whole sitch.
He said some things that I want to share.
His IC said that if H planned to return he should look at the statistics of relationships that actually survive infidelity. Apparently resentment destroys the relationship eventually.
This worried me. H has been seeing this IC for a yr and he doesn't sound promarriage.
Also, H told me he is unsure of returning but he's hopeful. He continues to see my anger as a problem, saying that it would eventually make him leave again (this sounds like what his IC said!)
A lot of other things were said but that stood out for me.
We are now going about our day with the new arrangement. It makes me feel so much better. I finally feel at ease. Not as much tension. I can enjoy my day.
M 42 H 39 T10 (-2yrs separation) S8 D5 DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA) Reconciled 6/2013 Separation in works 1/2017
