No appt yet. The IC was moving into a new office. I simply said, "give her a call."
No timeliness have been stated, of course I'd love for her to truly want to work things before the holidays, but that's just wishful, if not wasteful thinking.
She has inititated any convo as if yet, thankfully. Then again, she might not at all.
I have to admit that earlier today / last night I have felt some anger creeping back in re: the sich being what it is / all of her confusion and what not. Thinking I want to scream many many times (internally). Guess ill use it as motivation for a workout. At least for now I will. I'll update later and thanks for being there / here.
If she says she feels pressured, I would ask her why, and really listen. Maybe she'll give you some clues about what's going through your head.
Yup! ^^^^^^
This might have something to do with her friend's decision to break it off with her BF.
Keep us posted mate!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
No appt yet. The IC was moving into a new office. I simply said, "give her a call."
No timeliness have been stated, of course I'd love for her to truly want to work things before the holidays, but that's just wishful, if not wasteful thinking.
She has inititated any convo as if yet, thankfully. Then again, she might not at all.
I have to admit that earlier today / last night I have felt some anger creeping back in re: the sich being what it is / all of her confusion and what not. Thinking I want to scream many many times (internally). Guess ill use it as motivation for a workout. At least for now I will. I'll update later and thanks for being there / here.
So anyways, nothing happened. Shortly after my last post (the first one), I laid down on the floor for a few - collecting thoughts in general. W came down and asked if I was ok. I said no, and went on to briefly explain a work sich that has me aggravated. Surprise, things other than my M can upset me. . She then shared her stressful work day. Validate of course. I asked her if she wanted to expand upon the "pressured" statement. She said no. I left it at that; and then finally started to workout. Soon after I was done exercising, she walked by - withdrawn and didn't offer a goodnight. Oh well. Getting used to it. She did say she spoke with her sister in CA. She's pretty direct so I'm unsure of how come she's upset. Not my worry right? This sister told me that I should sit down with W, and pretty much tell her to choose OM or Me. Ultimatum. I'm not ready for that yet. I have the back up plan of leaving / "respite" as you all have put it later on this w/e.
Hi Afa i agree no timelines - too much pressure for both of you i know you - like the rest of us - will know when you are done. i also agree no ultimatum - until you can handle being the one she doesn't choose. However, from what W has said she knows OM is not what she wants longterm. Interesting friend has realised this in her sitch.
i don't have views on anger towards/forgiveness for OM - i've not been there. i think i'd feel sorry for OM w his questionable morals and odd way of showing he cares for W by disrespecting her M i think the forgiveness/compassion is for W and you have that in spades
don't have views on anger towards/forgiveness for OM - i've not been there. --be thankful
think i'd feel sorry for OM w his questionable morals and odd way of showing he cares for W by disrespecting her M --of course OM has questionable morals, but I honestly never thought that way
i think the forgiveness/compassion is for W and you have that in spades --mind clarifying, the spades part?
Tori, It felt more in the moment since we we're discussing "daily struggles," but I do see what you mean
I see this OM leaving her life soon. The 6 months average duration for an A is true. --I hope it's her that leaves him
Thanks for hte support and all currently, she has sent me several friendly even joking emails and texts. Hope that lasts and it's true, not guilt based.
You have that "in spades" English idiom It basically comes from the card game Bridge where the top ranking suit is spades.
... to have it in spades .... means he/she has it 'big time'
Hope this clarifies!
ME41 H39 T12 M9 Ilybinilwy 10/2010 H moves out 11/2010 H moves in 09/2011 out 11/2011 Try to fix it alone, give up 07/2012 Tumbling to file 02/01/2013 :-) "Strong on the inside, soft on the outside"
Call me silly or some other non-nice word. So I have forgiveness for W big time? Or she has it for me big time?
Sorry a bit confused here... to add to the confusion, she sent me a text about how her blood pressure has dropped low again, is dizzy, afraid to drive, cannot get a dr. appt, and is f*ing tired of physically feeling like this. (This has been occurring for numerous days / she d/c'd a med b/c of it, yet evidently that's not helping her).
I am yet to respond. I normally would swoop in...so this is a good thing, even though I am fearful for her physical well being. I am finding comfort in that she can call her gma for help if needed as she is watching our D11 today who has a fever.
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