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kml you are soooo funny. I think that's what I've needed, laughter. Your idea of a new hair style and color is brilliant. Haven't done that for a few years. What's even better is that the night before he left he told me that he like my hair the way I was wearing and that it looked good. (So you like my hair the way it is....I think I'll change it attitude.) If I end up picking him up he will know that this woman that he married so long ago is up to no good! I'm going to dress (as MrB put it) in a way that he won't know what hit him....from the inside out! LOL! Yep, good idea to drop him off, reapply the lipstick as he's getting his bag out of the car and tell him not to wait up for me.

So what do I do if he tells me that he's sorry for leaving me behind yada, yada? Nah, that'll never happen. Not yet anyway. I think he has childhood issues to deal with. After reading some of the threads that Cadet sent to me, I realize that. One in particular struck me. The one that Snodderly wrote on why they leave, I believe. She talked about childhood abuse etc. He comes from a family that is extremely conservative with a mother who is very snobbish and controling and a father who is a quiet but sometimes verbally abusive man. He lost one of his brothers during his teen years. My MIL never recovered from it and H says that she had a nervous breakdown. They had two more kids and he ended up having to take care of them because my MIL ignored them. They also disowned 2 of their daughters many, many years ago over the choice they made in a husband. The other 3 kids (including my H) went on to what seemed to be happily adjusted adults. I suspect his past is finally catching up to him. I understand that he has to deal with it in his own way. First he will have to admit that there is a problem. I don't see that happening very easily for him. I pray that he doesn't go into full blown MLC or depression. After reading so many of the stories on the board, I don't know how I would handle 2,3,4,5 years of this.