Yes, you're right about that fuanacdc, it's not about winning him back. The little list I rattled off was just in response to MrBond as to what I've been doing for him, etc. Don't get the idea I'm out there cleaning his car or something! I'm just doing what I always did, as opposed to "not" doing them, if that makes any sense. In other words, I'm not being petty or anything to make a point. There's a saying I really love from my favorite author. It's something like
"Ships come in over a calm sea".
I think sometimes that nonresistance is good for everyone involved. And I think you're 100% correct in saying that the changes need to be behavioral and lasting. Unfortunately, only time and lots of work on my part is going to show that I'm undergoing these changes. I'm just cognizant of the bigger picture, which is me looking at me.
