I am looking at gaining some insight into something else that I am battling with. My w seems to think that we will spend the childrens' b-days together, and do Christmas morning together among other things. Part of me thinks I should, but I am conflicted. We are not one big happy family anymore, I don't want to say no for the sake of the children. The reality is, if we can't make this work, at some point there will be someone else in each of our lives. Can't imagine they would feel to comfortable Christmas morning with a XW there.
Same sitch for me. W seems content to keep doing all family events as if we're still together. For now there's no OP in the picture and W and I are getting along great, so I don't have a problem continuing to do things jointly with the kids. It's certainly not in keeping with the spirit of detachment, but I think it makes the kids feel better to see us together and it gives me an opportunity to show PMA/ 180's to W.
As for what will happen if/ when OP is in the picture, I don't know. I'll cross that bridge when I get to it!
