I am angry she has the girls out so late on a school night
Is this a previously established boundary that you and W had agreed to? I'm guessing it's not. But it should be. The two of you should sit down and discuss these things and come to an agreement. Yelling at her on the phone at 11:00 at night is not the way to handle it!
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she hangs up an then texts me that she is seeing red that I will call d(11) to bitch out her mother..a gross reminder"
I'm sure she perceives it as "more of the same" behavior from you. You're supposed to be avoiding that and working on 180s. A 180 might have been "W, I'm sorry about the confusion, we should have discussed this before but now I realize I never brought it up. Please let me know when you have time and we can talk about it and work out what the two of us think is a fair and reasonable time to have the girls home on weeknights and on weekends."
