guess you are right I should not get people to dislike her, though that seems to have already happened. I will look to find those books and read them. Guess it is just like my therapist said I cannot combat an emotional person with logic.
I was thinking she told me a few weeks ago that she was sure if she could every live with some again, right there isn't that the answer she seems to have the issues, the bad part is I always seem to have somrthing i wished I had said the day after our talks. I say to myself why didn't i say that.
Talked with W today, she asked how I was doing and all,I wonder if there is still and love in there. I talked to me therapist she said I need to lower my expectation Until I am able to return home and get back into couples counseling with her. I will hepl easy the worms from eating my stomach.
I had the chnce to see and I tried to make it work be it did not happen, my therapist told me that I set myself up for failure. By I don't see how someone could flight 3000 miles, and not take 5 seconds to say hi to someone that they have know for 20 years and married 8. I cannot wrap my head around it. I would have done everything possible if the roles were reversed. Very disappointed, and torn, how could I still love someone who has been treating me this way?
now I am totally confused, had a conversation yesterday w/ W and there was a pause, and the tone change in her voice and she said, "I missed you". But I am now going to get my hope up. I will take it, but I will way for action.
now I am totally confused, had a conversation yesterday w/ W and there was a pause, and the tone change in her voice and she said, "I missed you". But I am now going to get my hope up. I will take it, but I will way for action.
Have you read DR yet? What does "detachment" mean to you? What about "GAL"? What about "180's"? If these words are foreign to you then you need to stop everything and sit down and read DR. We can't even begin to help you if you don't at least have a basic understanding of DB'ing.
Well I messed up big time I send a letter whining about how I feel, and tried over a week to repair what I wrote. But now the contact has ended. Only dealing what the sell of the house. I have been struggling to stop myself from contacting her and it really hurts me. I keep read websites with the answers that I want to read. You see she had got breast implants and I was against it, I was afraid she would leave after it was done, I even said that to her, what you going to that and then leave me, she said no it will just make me happier, I can tell you that it did not, if anything she became more moody about the stupid things, and I just deal with it. Now she is gone off live with her mom, On some Sabbatical, and it kill me. I know I need to move on, It therapy she said she did not want a divorce or a separation. Should I be the one to push for it. Why is she being such an a-hole to me. I gave her everything, she is the one who shut down. Now I am thinking of calling her on Thanksgiving, and I am not sure if that is a good idea, will it make her angry. she did tell me she 'loved me' but she has not said that in 2 months. though last month she said she missed me. i just feel horrible because I pushed and now i really think it is over separated 4 M, married 8.5 years, dated 4 years,
