I love some of your posts. You sure have a way with words... and they're meaningful.
LOL! It's fun to inject some humor in now and then so we're not all in super-serious mode all the time
Originally Posted By: turtlegirl
LOL, ANotherStander! Thanks!
No problem
Originally Posted By: turtlegirl
Did I handle this poorly in your opinions???
Nope, sounds like it went quite well actually. The fact that he apologized twice makes me think he respected you for standing up to him.
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To me if OW is involved I will respond differently to him (which he does still talk to her at work every day) when he visits the boys. Or, maybe I shouldn't differentiate...not sure. Could use some advice...
What do you mean by "involved"? EA, PA or just talking at work? Normally setting boundaries when one spouse is about to walk is not something easily enforced. If you tell him no contact with OW, then how do you enforce it after he moves out? You can't withhold his visitations with the kids because that would be punishing the kids. You really can't enforce boundaries once he moves out other than to refuse contact with him yourself, and that wouldn't work well with DB'ing unless you go LRT. I think you've just got to give him time and space and act "as if" everything is fine. His R with OW has got to run it's course and it's best not to interfere. If he were staying and trying to work on the M then by all means you should set boundaries regarding OW, but that all changes in a S.
You sure have a way with words... and they're meaningful. 