Sandi2, I have been re-reading the advice given to me on here and the piece re expecting the worst struck me. W has started being v secretive about financial stuff and whether or not she is moving. I think she has a house and is not telling me (lots of secret phonecalls etc, new bank account) and am worried she may be about to do something drastic with our joint finances. Did u mean expect the worst in terms of D, her behaviour or both? I continue to go up n down like a yo yo with her. But so far managing to keep my cool in front of her. The latest was she wld not spend money from the joint account as she does not earn any. I can't help thinking something major is about to happen. U were right with her anger and quotes (did u read the email she sent that I posted?). 25yrsmlc gave some great advice on it that I am working with.
I continue to stand my ground on a lot of issues (mainly financial related) and worried she is going o take matters in her own hands.
I know being secretive is a common trait in my sitch - she sees me as the enemy and the one barrier to her happiness. The fantasy u spoke about. But how do I deal with all this and expect her to think anything but bad when the fog finally lifts?
