best and worse thing to ever go through

[eyesopen]

I will not bring it up to her, she sees, and she has to live with it. GKM I understand what you are saying about being strong for them. She thought about stopping by at bedtime and called to get my thoughts. I don't think I handled the call the best, as I was unsure about her stopping by. After I thought about it for a bit I sent her this text...I think it is best to keep the routine we have. I know you want to do everything you can to protect the children, and that is what makes you a great mom, but this is their reality. We have to do what we can to help them adjust without confusing them.

I question the part about being a great mom, as it come off as sucking up. Other than leaving she is a great mom and has not neglected them as I have read so often on these boards. The rest of it I feel good about, as I am trying to be more of a leader and not a pleaser.