first time need help - still (new thread?)

[albamarie]

don't be too anxious to rush out the door. look at the familiarity & "security?" (even with problems) of life you're in and what is "out there". You may be rushing right out to nothing at all .

I agree, my mom divorced my dad the next day after she thought of it. Divorced, they worked out their issues, remarried. Years later she was done again, divorced, 3yrs later, together again.

It's so stupid to discard people you love so fast. Some sitch really warrant a separation...but if it was ever good (great) in the first place it deserves the respect of time. That's my justification - time to work, grow, maybe even heal.

It's the not knowing when to stop beating a dead horse. But, I am a true believer that when it's dead, we will know it, it's just making sure we can except it. Until then we are ridding the coaster!

i turned a blind eye to this guy's quirkie selfishness becasue it wasn't directed at me. i misread & reconfigured to suit myself & my little world.

Me too! A real nerd my guy, kinda a geek, smart, quirky, unconventional, a little dungens and dragons fan in there. But, it was enduring, love shot my way, accommodating, fitting for me as I am a little eclectic myself.

There was selfishness also but I'm kinda a cool girl who pulls her hair up and either hangs with the guy stuff or goes off on my own. He was always right were I left him when I got back. Reliable, constant, loyal!

It's that stuff he took away from me (Reliable, constant, loyal) that is so gut wrenchingly painful. He was better than my parents growing up, all I thought a family should be.

Do we think that stuff we miss in still in there? It is what we want-right? Do we think it's there for ow-it's not! That is a whole other sitch of pain and hurt their going throw. She doesn't have your H as you know him, not at all.

i have to reread this post- you made some great declarations here. good rant-thanks!