Thanks for the good wishes Agnes! I just caught up with your thread - the new name threw me at first.

My S19 has started to ask questions in the last couple of days. Recurring theme of (with H out of town now) "So has Dad told you he loves you and misses you?" The first few times I tried to evade the question, but that child is relentless. And seems clued in that "somethings" up. So finally today I said to him that his dad didn't say those words because either he doesn't feel them or just can't say them. I kept the tone light and S19 didn't have any other comments.

Sigh. So hard to know the right thing to say to the kids.

Thanks again for stopping by!

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.