best and worse thing to ever go through

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I dont know what the right answer is but I have not brought up the impact of S or D on the kids at this point as I just see it as adding more pressure and pushing her further away. Somehow she is also convinced like many other WAS mentioned on here that the kids are resilient and will be fine.

A similar argument is to never take your child to the doctor for treatment. They are resilient and with time will overcome most infections, injuries and pain too. But we dont do that, We shelter them, take care of them and protect them. Resilient is no excuse for forcing change like this on them.

Sorry for the rant, but it baffles me that someone is willing to trade part of growing up with their kids for some vision of freedom or self gratification. Call me an LBS -- but I just dont get it.