"Furthermore, and I know of many here who lived it, SHE won't have any sense of urgency nor decisions to finally make UNTIL you move forward with the life that WILL happen without her. That is the thing that clicks in them. The only thing.
You can't tell her. You can't fake it.
You have to LIVE it."
^^^^^From AKhope. I had to steel this from AT's thread as a reminder. It's some truthful wisdom.
Yeah, I've been pondering this one for the last few days. I have to face my fears first. What you posted was great mate. I share a lot of the same fears (as I'm sure many of us do). I just don't know where to go from here. This might not be the best time for me to take life changing decisions. I'm kind of f&*ked up right now. But I know I'll need to get there somehow, soon. I feel like I've taken a major step back. What happened to the acceptance I thought I'd found a few weeks(days??) ago? Man, this is messed up. Sorry for rambling on your thread mate.
Hey Arsene,
We go through times when we are fu!cked up. They DO pass. I am in a much better place then I was a couple weeks ago however I know that can change since where on a roller coaster.
One of my low’s a couple weeks ago was pretty awful. Not only because of what W said but it was also hard because she kept stringing me along. She kept saying she wanted to talk with me, over and over again. It never happened but whatever because I can clearly read between the lines.
Denver told me it will get easier each time something like this happens. I believe he’s got an excellent point. Next time W throws me for a loop, I hope I will handle things in a better fashion.
I can be a bit blunt but you seem to attached Arsene. Things WILL NOT get better until you can let her go. We've been told this from day one. Easier said the done, I know buddy. Seriously though, I still have a ton to learn but I don’t think we should be in the freshman class anymore.
