So, my H hasn't been comm w OW outside of work for 2 weeks now (due to her angry H coming to our house in response to a sexually explicit email my H emailed to OW that her H intercepted.
This morning my H was taking my car to shop & then going to get picked up from there. He's done this in past for me. I asked who was picking him up and he said, "Who do you think?" I was so upset!!! I had offered to drive him to work (only 20 minutes extra out of my day & he was doing me a favor), but he had forgotten.
At first he didn't see the BIG DEAL about OW picking him up to take him 10 min to work. In a not very DBing way I told him it WAS a BIG DEAL and that it WASN'T about just getting a ride. That anything to do with OW was a BIG DEAL to ME!
He came back into the room after about 30 seconds and said, "I'm sorry, I was just insensitive to how this might have upset you. I didn't think about it being a big deal." Then he gave me a big hug.
He even called me on the way to work to apologize AGAIn for his insensitivity (even though he did take the ride from her anyway). He said, "I guess you can just add this to my list of screw-ups and bad decisions.
I am NOT sorry I got upset with him. And, I am GLAD he was sorry and said so. I just don't want him to think that after he moves out that if OW continues to be in the picture that I am going to let him have his cake and eat it too.
Did I handle this poorly in your opinions???
To me if OW is involved I will respond differently to him (which he does still talk to her at work every day) when he visits the boys. Or, maybe I shouldn't differentiate...not sure. Could use some advice...
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
