Keep on the filing path for D. Keep on being tough with the love.

Do not let him back.

If he says he wants to come back and work on it. Say that you will have to think about that based on prior actions and that you are still moving forward with the divorce.

If he then says I will do what it takes....

Then think this over....

Lay out your boundaries and conditions that he will have to do to work his way back into the marriage.

(Tranparency,No Contact, MC with a pro mc who deals with adultery, expectations, post nup ... what ever you need here )

Do not state it on this conversation. This happens when his actions match his words and they are consistent over a length of time.



Remind him here that you are still moving forward with the D.

End the conversation.

Then you need to really think this over. Without any contact with him. Or dark and plan b as per hartley or SI.




The goal of this conversation is for him to realize that his actions are actually ruining the marriage. That he does not have the ability to choose you as an option.

This is one of those moments where you can teach him how to treat you. What is acceptable and what is not acceptable.

He is either going to learn the lesson and choose to treat you with respect and as a husband should treat a wife.

Or

He is going to continue treating you with disrespect and ignore your boundaries.

That is his choice. But in no shape or form should it alter your boundaries and what is acceptable in your life.

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