My wife has not asked for a divorce. She has mentioned us seperating but only in the terms of 'if we seperate'. There has been nothing to suggest that she is willing to do it at this point. She has only expressed that she is unhappy and that she has been so for the last 2 years. She has been trying to make it work but she finally had to say something. I have tried to keep the pressure off her but we have had a few conversations about the relationship. I asked her directly what she wants. Her answer was at this time 'she doesn't know'. After reading on here and in the DB book I can clearly see the error of my ways over the past few years. I am 100% doing everything I can to rectify those issues. I appreciate that at the moment, its about how I deal with this. I cant make her want our relationship to work. She doesnt seem too keen on any form of counselling at this point so I am doing it myself. I think she just needs the space for now but its confusing in many ways because we are talking and communicating much better in the last 2 weeks than we have in the last 2 years! Im making time to be with her in the morning before we go to work and before the kids get up. She seems to be enjoying that I am connecting with her. We share a coffee and talk a lot. Not so much about the relationship but just nice conversation in general. It really hurts at the moment that she wants zero physical contact. I dont mean sex, but me even reaching for her hand or putting my arm around her causes a startled reaction. I have since stopped trying any of that. Do I just keep doing what I am doing and give her some time or is there something more I should be doing? I love her very much. I just havent shown her that in some time. I really hope my turnaround has not come too late for us.
