Is It really Worth it?

[Ready2Quit]

Well, just when you think everything is going well, SLAM right into a brick wall. I found a email between the H and the OW that was dated 10/22/12. The first one is what the OW sent to H, the second is what H sent to OW.

Good Morning. I am hoping you can clear some things up. Here's my take on things, if I'm wrong, set it straight, if I'm right please be honest and say I am.
You said you didn't think I would actually leave ( or him leave) so when I did, you freaked and bailed. The only way you know how to handle those type things is to stop contact with me, either through fighting or ignoring me.

When I didn't thaw out last week like you thought I should, we have yet another fight and you're gone again. You have your wedding, get back in good graces with W, then BF's father passes and you and her continue to see each other and since you and I aren't talking you go back with her.

Are you back home already or are you at least considering it? This is bare bones here, I'm not trying to deny my part in the fighting, I'm just trying to get straight to the bottom of this before I make anymore decisions. You never replied once I cleared up H wasn't back home, so I'm sure that threw a wrench
in your plans to blame it on that.
Please be honest and let me know what you are planning.


H replay to OW:

Hello. No I didnt think you or him would have been gone this long. I know i went back on more than one occasion so I had my doubts about this happening with you. When I told you this, you got mad. Everythime I left, I heard this same thing from you. I even heard it this last time. After a month of me being gone, you even said,"I cant believe you have been gone this long".You would even tell me to go back home. I dont know why this was any more non supported than what I said. I guess its all on how you want to take it.

It wasnt a matter of how I thought you should thaw out. It was your actions and what you have said the last 3 weeks. You said it previous text that you "were done". You told me that we were so much alike that we couldnt even fight without getting nasty with each other. You made little comments that I feel if I had said the same thing, you would have gotten pissed at me. Things haven't been right between us since the day at that bar on Crittenden Dr. You have continuslosy said that you have doubts abouts me being around or you would trust me to back you up on things. Really? Wow that was always nice to hear from you.

From a picture of a wedding, you fire off about her being there. I think I had every right to fire off about (her husband name) being back home with his truck being parked out front. I know you took offense to this and didnt "feel obligated " to tell me anything. You are correct, you arent obligated to tell me anything. But like you, I didnt have the full story, so I do get to assume and over react. No there was no wrench thrown in my plans. I dont need that to make any decisions. Again, by your comments, you assume a lot and think she and I are continuing to see each other. Fine, think that.

Yes, I am tired of living in my moms home and giving my money to support a house and 3 lifestyles that I have no part of. To answer your question, Yes, I have been thinking real hard about going back home. Im tired of my kids picking and choosing between her and I also, like you are yours. Why would you need to know any of my thoughts to decide what you need to do. If you are so unhappy with him, you have made your decision. I truly never thought you were ready to leave him either

Im so done with the fighting and fussing about all this and feeling like the bad guy all the time.


So doesn't that make me feel all warm inside. I took the names out of email to protect the innocent (LOL) If I don't laugh I might shoot someone!!