My W's bday was a couple months after BD, I was hung up on the DB tip that says no gifts, it just didn't feel right. In the end we did have a small party for her, gave her a few gifts and some flowers and took her out to eat. I'm glad we did, even if it wasn't DB protocol it still felt like the right thing to do and she did seem to enjoy it.
I did roughly the same thing. Small gift, party with the kids. No way we were not going to celebrate as a family. Was not a DB set back in my book. But I am biased on this one.
M:44 W:41 M: 12 yrs W's EA began 3/12 Somewhere between WAW and MLC Still in same house
