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Thanks to all of you. I've been posting responses to you all and nothing has appeared here so I'll try it again

Fy Without a legal document I suspect it wouldn't be legal to throw him out but I'm willing to try just about anything at this point.

kml Finding his stuff on the doorstep would definitely get his attention. I have been thinking about what you said and leaving on a vacation of my own whether it's before or after he returns is a great idea. I've already checked out a few places that I would like to go. I think I could dig out a few trashy romance novels, a bag of junk food and a few trashy movies to take along!

I did say almost those very words to him....every action has a reaction and he stared at me with that deer in the headlights look as he processed it.

MrB You and I think along the same lines. Right after he told me about going on his journey of discovery, I started dressing just slightly different, wearing things that made ME feel good (yes, he noticed and commented). I have always felt it was important to dress well and look good even if you're just going out to the run errands. I do need a lot of work on the mental piece. This has thrown me into a downward spiral mentally. Spiritually all is well and I've made even more time for myself in that regard.

Neither of us have become complacent and have great respect one another. Of course once in awhile all bets are off and we have an argument that we'd like to forget. As hard as it will be I will on occasion ask for help. Men like to be needed, right? I get that and am happy to bite my tongue while I ask....and then thank him of course. LOL