There are a lot of stories around here about how much people fight during this process and DR even addresses that, but it seems like cases like ours where there is no fighting are fairly unusual.
Definitely! But in most other respects W hasn't really changed much. She's still a loving and caring mother, a responsible worker, a kind person in general and has not exhibited the "opposite" behavior that I've seen described in MLC threads. She's never once gone monster (or anything close to it) throughout this whole process. She's actually been very kind and considerate towards me and was there to support me in the worst stages of depression after BD. Now there have been some MLC signs- she dieted and lost about 20 pounds, she started wearing sexier underwear, changed her hair style a bit. But no radical transformation, no "alien transplant". Maybe that is still to come, only time will tell.
No fighting over here. No monster either. We live together, do things together and generally get along good, she's just not "In Love" and therefore thinks she needs to move on.
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Of course, in a touchy situation where our spouse wants out, we still have to choose our battles wisely. But things haven't been as tense in our sitch as they used to be, so I think I'm on track.
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M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
