UGGGG...anyway...can I get any advice on how to respond...or do I not respond at all?
I would reply back to him one time and say that you have done nothing to interfere with the R between H and D and that in fact you would like to see them have a loving R. But you can see now that that cannot happen on its own and you feel it is extremely important that H consult with an IC ASAP to determine a course of action. The IC may wish to talk to him first, then to D, then to both of them jointly. Tell him you will assist in whatever way you can to get D to the IC. But it's important to make it clear that this is strictly between him, D and an IC and that you are not trying to interfere or intervene and your involvement is just to support them in resolving this with professional help. If he decides to lash out at you again instead of listening to this suggestion then print all of his texts out and consult your IC to see if you need to get a restraining order.
Honestly your H is extremely hostile, and I'm concerned that he could even be dangerous. An IC is not subject to doctor/ patient privilege if they feel personal safety is at risk, so this would be a good time to get him to an IC in whatever way is possible to make sure he's not a danger to you and your family.
