The 2nd email, along with wondering just what in the world would cause me to be "short" with lil' ol' H also mentioned that he had tried and failed to get some answers from his parents regarding his childhood. He said they either didn't remember, remembered very differently, or just plain didn't want to talk about it. I acknowledged his frustration with their response. His response to that acknowledgement has me pondering. I quote

So finding anything out that hurts you can cause even more pain if you find out the wrong thing.

Isn't that the truth? Lol - I am sure he doesn't recognize that he and I have much in common with that.

Me 46 H 56
M 22 yrs
S22, D20, Twin Ss18

You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
What you stop.
And what you reinforce.
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A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.