It's baffling to realize that our spouses are peculiar blends of who we knew. It's hard to recognize some of the particularly unkind things that they might have done are acts of the same person who might have been wonderful for us once. These things take a long time to come to terms with. And it's OK if it takes a long time.
Yes. Yes it does. That was one of the hardest to me. I described it at the time as if she had broken into a thousand pieces, and I was watching as she tried to put herself back together. It was like watching a child awkwardly put a puzzle together. Sometimes pounding to fit some of the pieces. At other times creating pieces with scissors... It was bizarre to say the least and is likely a work in progress still.
But you're right. It takes a long time to come to terms with and accept these things.
Cheers! AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
