I Cheated. She's Pissed!

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Jeffodie,

Oh boy... This is a tough one for me and I don't want to come across as judgmental or mean.

I will just give you my two cents in hopes that I may be able to somehow help you.

my current wife was ONE OF those affairs that "helped" me finally leave my 1st wife.


Anyway, my young wife thinks I will cheat on her again, so her M-O is to run from problems.

Can you understand that given your infidelity towards your current W and your history of cheating, how she is not trusting you at all? Try not to focus on her "M-O" but on your actions and how they affected her...

On the other hand, it shouldn't really surprise her that you cheated on her, given that SHE was the one you cheated with previously. My personal opinion, you guys were just asking for trouble and now here it is.

It's time for you to focus on how YOU can fix this...

Did you ever deal with your infidelity issues? Meaning, did you ever figure out why you did it "numerous times" in your previous marriage and now in this one?

This will be the key to fix whatever underlying issues you have so you don't do it again - to anyone.

Can't say I blame her, but my deal was a one night stand, and the guilt I carry is so overpowering that I will NEVER do that again!!

What is the difference for you between a "one night stand" and any other type of affair? Perhaps for your W there is no difference at all. Please consider this as well.

That aside, she did mention creating a POSTNUP if she stays in the marriage in case "I cheat again."

Hmmm. I have to question her comment and motives here. She wants a financial gain to punish you? I would think she would be more interested in fixing the R issues so that infidelity never happens again in your M, rather than worry about where she will end financially. It might just be her current anger motivating her...

Jeffodie - please - start looking at yourself and your mistakes in your past and present marriages. That to me will be the key to any healthy future R you may have with your W or anyone else.


Read around the boards. You will find a lot of inspiring people who are really working hard on themselves to become better people and you can learn a lot!

Good luck to you.