The crack in my perfect life...

[Sweetbriar]

I feel like Im always on here posting and asking for advice..but about 15 mins ago I received these texts an I wanted to know how to respond. Im at a loss...really I am so sad...

I guess H texted D14 and said that when she was ready, that he wanted to talk to her and she responded negatively to him that she didnt want to talk or have a relationship right now. (she also went to counseling today and discussed this so...she got advice from her therapist as well) H responded to her that he would be waiting with open arms.

Here is what I then received all in a row...i have not responded

H: Not interested in talkin to you, not intersted in having a realationship with you...just got that from D! Thanks for undermining and marginalizing me as a parent...and creating an enviornment where my kids are so comfortable hating me!

H: Kids yearn for their fathers who are deadbeats, and here I am...as father who provides and LOVES them...and they throw me out like garbage and spit on me...you ruined my relationship with my children and you wont let me have one with my new child...you have RUINED MY LIFE!!

I wrote exactly what he wrote word for word. I NEVER said he couldnt have a relationship with his new baby...I just havent let him be part of the appts...

I just am saddened...he is so very sad and upset right now...and I cannot do anything about it. I cannot tell D what to say and write and I never have. The only thing I can think of is that this goes back to when this all first started back in April. He had told D14 behind my back that he was leaving me and told her not to tell me...she held that in for over a week and said she cried every night in her room over it...then forward to about 2 weeks later, she comes home from school and Im crying. She advised me she knew everything and told me what her dad had told her. I asked "do you know about the OW?" I have regretted that since the moment I said it, but it was in the moment and I was floored at the time that H had told her he was leaving and I had just found out hours prior about OW.

I think that because I was the ultimately the one who told her about OW, that I will always be the one to blame when they are mad at him. H doesnt think of all the other stuff that has been said and done and his constant lack of caring that has gone on for months...

UGGGG...anyway...can I get any advice on how to respond...or do I not respond at all?

Thanks...