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kml, her husband DOES know about this. He called me to let me know. The worst part is that I already knew and pretended that I didn't. They have had marital problems and have been in counseling for the past 3 years and this isn't her first affair. She is about 15 years younger and I believe is in her own MLC. I noticed the behavior when we met her. He takes no medications and told me a few months back (without me even suggesting) that he didn't need counseling. He did go to the Dr. for a check up and most everything checked out fine but then he probably didn't discuss his mental state with the Dr.

I don't want to tolerate behavior that is hurtful to me but where are the limits. Believe me, that was my first thought. Go but don't expect your key to work in the door when you get back. I am not a pushover by any means but I'm trying to let him do the talking and just validate and act as if I understand. I did tell him that if he did this it could do irrepairable damage to us and that it was NOT the right thing to do. Maybe I am misunderstanding the way to handle this so advise away, please!