Am I in the right Forum?

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MrBond....we have 4 children but none live with us. They are pretty much self sufficient and don't require the attention that they use to. The last one left 4 years ago. Yes, we sort of rediscovered ourselves and reclaimed our marriage. We take trips, have a very good sexual relationship, communicate very well and overall have been happy to be kid-free! So in answer to your question, no it hasn't been status quo for years. Our attention is focused on us and a few activities that we do as individuals.

He is, or should I say was a very high energy guy. Since leaving his job he has settled down a bit and doesn't have to be busy every waking minute. He acts as if he doesn't have a purpose any longer which is why we talked about doing something like taking classes. I have a more laid back personality. He's always called me his "rock" or the balance that he needs to calm him.

One thing I didn't mention in my initial post is that he has some pretty major unresolved issues from childhood. We don't spend a lot of time with his dysfunctional family and it's like pulling teeth to get him to visit so I usually end up checking in on his parents rather than him. What I find even more interesting is that he brought up going away for a few weeks even before we met the OW.