Victim No More

[JustStunned]

I believe no one sets out to make a bad decision. Each of us tries to make the best decision for our values based on our perception of the information available at the time.

And there the rub “based on the perceptions of the available information.”

Replay, crisis, WAS, MLC label it as you will, they will begin to make sense to us when their perceptions align with ours. Until then attempts to understand their decisions and actions generally lead to frustration, anxiety and sleep deprivation, driving us further down our own tunnels where our perceptions risk alteration.

Where we enter our own fog.

Sometimes they are not even making decisions. Sometimes they are flying by the seat of their pants reacting to the last puff of wind.

This is a time when we must be focused on what is best for us, and for our children. So we stay present and make good informed rational decisions. Take a breath slowly and do not allow yourself to knee jerk react.

Remember, everyone is breathing, no one is bleeding.

GAL, detachment and giving space were crucial to my salvation. I prayed a lot also and posted so many times my personal crises. There is a quote I found helped me from focusing on my X’s crisis and what may happen.

“There is no better moment than now. I always tell my wife: If you dwell on your worst case scenario and it does not happen, you have wasted your time. If it does happen, you have lived it twice" – Michael J Fox

This from a man younger than I staring Parkinson’s disease in the face.