I think he's actually noticing the difference. I did a bit of a 180 and told him that I appreciated something about him and gave a reason.
Have you read the 5 Love Languages? What you did is "words of affirmation". You might read that book if you haven't already, it'll help you determine how to do more of this.
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He said that I worried him and he asked what was going on. I told him that nothing was going on and that I had been thinking about what I'm thankful for.
Don't tell him "nothing", tell him that this whole experience has awakened you and that you're transforming yourself into a better person. To quote one of the DB 180 tips:
"You need to make your partner think that you have had an awakening and, as far as you are concerned, you are going to move on with your life, with or without your spouse."
So you want him to know that you ARE changing, but that it's not for his benefit, it's for yours.
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He said that he didn't understand me anymore.
DB'ing is all about getting a life and being a bit mysterious. This may be why he's saying he doesn't "understand" you anymore, you're not predictable. If so then you're doing good DB'ing
