H said this morning that strangely, he thinks the boys will become his top priority when he moves out. Interesting that he thinks being a part time dad is going to be a top priority. I don't get his thinking at all.
That's because his emotions are in full control. He's picturing a fantasy world where he has all the time in the world to spend bonding with the kids through various exciting activities, plus he'll have women swooning at his feet, he'll be a multi-millionaire and unicorns will fly through the sky pooping rainbow Skittles.
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As he gets closer to the move-out date he seems happier...
Because he is sooooo convinced his fantasy is about to become reality!
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I on the other hand feel worse and worse.
Because you're grounded in reality.
Originally Posted By: 7720
My W was very happy when she moved out...almost euphoric...most of that has faded
I think it's much the same for my W. She was positively giddy when she moved out. It appears the harsh reality of mowing the lawn, putting out ant poison, doing all the inside cleaning, laundry, etc. etc. and only seeing the kids every other week hit home. It's only been 6 weeks but I can already see a change in her attitude. She's trying to spend more time with the kids on the weeks that I have them and is hanging around my house longer when she comes over.
That's not to say a turnaround is imminent, maybe it is but I don't think so. She's warmed up to me a lot but going from there to talking about reconciliation is a huge jump that is likely months down the road. We all want this to end quickly, but it very rarely does.
