Do I still remember good times? Absolutely. And yes, I definitely have moments where I relive those good times. But, thanks to Chatter, I'm starting to balance those out with "bad" memories... with thoughts of where those good times lead to... and that version of thought-stopping seems to help more than anything else I've tried thus far.
It is to balance the process out and begin to start looking at the actual relationship not the one you have built up in your mind. Close though
To do that takes exercise.
When people leave our lives we tend to skip over the negative traits and paint a holier than thou picture.
Why. Because do not really want to face the reality of the situation. It's far better to chase after a saint than to remain in limbo with someone who is selfish and crosses our personal boundaries. Makes decisions about our lives without our input.
When you get to this point. Your choices that you make are not based on fear or emotion.
Choosing to remain in limbo and chase after your cheating spouse is a rash decision based out of emotions, low self-esteem and fear.
I have never seen anyone disprove that point.
AT you have moved beyond most of this. Just keep working on that self-esteem ,personal growth and being honest with yourself.
Keep the clock ticking.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
