Part of me is astounded that he'd really leave when there's so much love between us
He's not in love with you right now. That's the sitch for 99% of us here, we love our spouses and they may love us, but they're not "in love" with us. It's hard to accept at first, especially if you thought you were loved for years or in my case even decades. But DB'ing is all about coming to accept it, determine our part in why it happened, and working to change those parts of ourselves that are at fault.
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The other part of me is numb and kind of like "if you're going to go, then go already and let me get on with my life!"
Yeah, we all go through that. We wonder if it's worth it. I think there comes a time for all of us when we get over the emotional sting of the bomb drop and then we start remembering our spouses are not perfect either. We start taking stock of all their faults and then asking ourselves if standing is really worth it. For some it's worth waiting indefinitely, for some it's only worth a few months of their time, and for others it's not worth any effort at all. There is no right or wrong in this, you have to search your heart and decide what's best for yourself.
