Sam, I would definitely request that the house key be returned to you that her friend has. You don't want anyone in your house unless you have given them permission to be there. I agree w/you, she should knock and wait for you to answer the door. Unfortunately, this is a very common trait w/mlcers. Even though they have left home, they still think they have the right to just walk right in or come and go as they please. I bet you haven't don't that at her place.
Your w's behavior is a lot like rH's husband. As long as you go along w/them, they will be nice. Well, if you don't want to talk to her, then don't. After all you have feelings too.
I understand the desire to want to run away, but you can't. You are the mature adult in this situation and you know you have responsibilities. That's the issue w/the mlcer...they run fast and hard because they can't face what has been stuffed down for a very long time. It will come out to haunt them periodically, but more so at night when it's dark, quiet and nothing to do but think.
You've got it...because she thinks you deliberately hurt her by breaking the frame, etc., she now must find a way to hurt you...definitely rebelling.
Nothing says that you have to text her back...after all...you have a life and things to do yourself. She needs to face the consequences of her actions and what better way than for her to stew in her own pot of juice!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
