Is It really Worth it?

[Tessa2012]

[quote=NinaNina] Maybe it's a shield they put up? Maybe they don't want to send too much good vibes our way out of fear we will misinterpret?

My W started treating me really poorly for a while and finally came to me and said she couldn't do it anymore. She explained to me that she thought that treating me poorly would make it easier for me to move on. How's that for logic? She kept saying that she couldn't treat me like that anymore because I didn't deserve it, but that she also didn't want me "to get the wrong idea". In other words, she didn't want me to have any hope that reconciliation is possible. So yeah, I think that WAS's do modify their behavior so as not to imply any hope.

I can relate to this. My H would treat me like crap and then get upset because I didn't want him to leave and still wanted the M to work. He said that he was trying to get me to hate him so that I would agree to the D. I'm so thankful that even though we're not on the road to recovery yet that we're on good speaking terms and he isn't as big of a jerk.

But we had a nice conversation on Sunday and he told me he does not like to be alone and he misses me! I have hope!!

I'm happy for you. I can't wait for the time when my H say that he misses me. I agree that you should be cautious. Before my H dropped the D bomb, he was constantly back and forth with "I love you and I want to try and work it out" and "I'm done. It's over."