You have no control on whether 'the other' will grow farther away so it's not worth the worry. I know that's easier said than done but that's the reality.

Figure out who the problems belongs to. If it's yours work on it. If it's hers, leave it with her.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss