AnotherStander, Thank you for taking the time to examine my sitch and the advice about the Love Languages Book. I will have to purchase it this weekend.
I wish I never would have moved out. I'm the one out of the house, paying my own bills, suffering the loss of my house while she has the house to her self, the OM, and me as a security net. I'm not sure how to get back in the house without causing a major confrontation. She changed the locks on me so I can't get in if I tried. I know fear plays a part in my reluctance and it shouldn't be. A friend of mine told me if the W truly wanted the D she would have signed months ago.
Should I set my boundaries with her right now and say I am moving back in? I will need to build up the strength for that one.
I love the alpha line. The W always took care of the bills and as soon as I left credit cards and mortgage stopped getting paid. I contacted all creditors and am back on track, I even refinanced our home to lower payments. I have never stepped up like this and realized I need become the alpha in our marriage.
Thanks again for your time and wisdom. I was hoping to hear that I needed to keep plugging. Like so many here, I want our NEW marriage to work more than anything in this world.
H: 35 W: 37 S: 7 T: 10 M: 8 OM: Apr. 29 2012 PA: Aug. 31 2012 DWord: July 29 2012 DWord on hold since Sept. 23 2012 DB'n Since October 8 2012
