As far "we" items, the main one that I may do is a cooking class or wine tastings. Seems as if the MeetUps like those. Definitely cooking, we'll see theatter.
Yes I am the organizer. I mentioned the idea to my friends and received a lack luster response. Part of me doesn't want my friends' Ws to get mad at me for stealing their Hs. Is that weird / wrong? I have contemplated just going away somewhere even by myself. Not sure how I would do.
I LOVE the idea of beating the sh*t out of something. Wood more than metal. Cheaper and I have some. Then again, some of the household items are ones that I've wanted to do, not necessarily the W or on a honey do list. Things that will make me happy (eg landscaping) and add to the value of our home.
I don't like the OM aspects of the convo. However I think she appreciates that I will listen (eg they each know it's a pointless R / not going anywhere. I can / have responded with "I am not his biggest fan, but I dont hate him". I'd rather practice forgiveness for him / his life rather than give him control over my anger. My anger is mine. No one else's. W and he may increase from time to time, but I'm trying to be the better man. Don't get me wring, if I ever see him at my home again, he may the new material for Project X. The more optimistic side of the convos is how she has said she realizes she needs to start focusing on herself, not him. How she misses me. How she loves me. I did actually say that it was good to hear, but I have walls up to protect myself. Sandi's rules kept popping in my head; and don't believe what I hear and only half of what I see.
As far as IC, I couldn't sneak it in during the convo. Perhaps I'll mention the balance (or lack of) for our HSA account. Oh, and the out of town SIL, called for W while she was out, and agreed to check in with W to see how that is going.
A date most likely will not happen anytime soon. The wine is no more. We did however just watch Tosh.O together. She invited, so I passed on exercise to join her. She, the kids, and I carved pumpkins tonight. Oh, and we each were posting on a mutual friend's FB page (playfully and what not). Funny thing is that OM is a friend of that person too.
Respite at the parental house. Nothing yet other than u did get their ok to stay if I need to. A lot of it depends on how this week, if not this w/e goes. If there is more OM visits, then I'll leave for sure.
Oh, and the 2 x 4, is one that I wanted staked into the ground to help me remain grounded. We can pull it out and smack me with it if we need to.
