Thanks for your input MrBond. Although I asked him that because it's been almost a week with next to no words. I couldn't take it anymore. It wasn't an affront, I was asking an honest q. Maybe you're right and it was unnecessary. I have a ways to go.
I thought that coming forward to apologize and as not reacting today in upset or anger when he said he was still leaving was a huge leap for me. I didn't try to talk about it or change his mind. I told him I disagreed but I supported what he chose to do. And then I did my work and left him alone while he walked around looking like a dark cloud over a serial killer.
I'm going to keep trying, not engaging and being kind. If that's not different, I need to read the books again! Actually I'll do that anyway.
